Be Your Own Friend
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A few weeks ago an impromptu collaboration on Twitter led to the creation of this meme: I enjoy and appreciate the many self-other love and growth loops in my life, and I think there is a lot to be gained from internalizing that you get to be your own friend. It's simple but not always easy: treat yourself how you want your friends to treat you. See the good in who you are and what you do. Take good care of yourself. When you're your own friend, your friendships are resilient because you can give and receive the truth about growth areas and mistakes and shortcomings. You appreciate everyone's courage and vulnerability for receiving each other's perspectives. You take your friends' feedback seriously, but you are the final authority on your choices. You don't outsource your sovereignty to your friends, that's not their responsibility. Being your own friend is the ultimate port in the storm of life. Other people may at times judge you and misinterpret you and hurt your feelings. Your friendship with yourself is the solid ground that lets you support yourself when emotions are heightened and ruptures occur. You can relax in any environment because you've got yourself. You get to enjoy the longest, deepest, and most intimate friendship of your life. Announcement: I am hosting Look At My Projects September on Twitter! To participate, simply talk about and share at least one of your projects in September. You can do this on any social media or offline. If you have made or done something interesting, then it's worth sharing :^) |
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Quick Announcement: I am sharing an offering called Internal Polarity Dialogue! This offer is for women who have a people-pleasing or self-sacrificing pattern. Through conversations with your inner masculine and feminine parts, you can move from feeling frustration or sadness around this pattern to feeling more resourced and empowered to honor and prioritize your wants and needs. Learn more by watching this video and apply for a session by filling out this form. I have been giving more of my...