Indirect mentors are people who do or say things that earn your admiration. There is no formal mentorship container, no contract, no "teach me your ways" agreement. Anyone can be an indirect mentor, and most indirect mentors don't know the full scope of their mentorship. Indirect mentors might be family, friends, lovers, coworkers, or people on social media. Anyone can easily benefit from the indirect mentors in their life. When someone earns your admiration, reflect on the cause, then...
19 days ago • 1 min read
Quick Announcement: I am sharing an offering called Internal Polarity Dialogue! This offer is for women who have a people-pleasing or self-sacrificing pattern. Through conversations with your inner masculine and feminine parts, you can move from feeling frustration or sadness around this pattern to feeling more resourced and empowered to honor and prioritize your wants and needs. Learn more by watching this video and apply for a session by filling out this form. I have been giving more of my...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Today I'm thinking about the lifelong conversation I have with myself. Every decision I make, everything I say and do, every yes and no, every interaction I have is another etch in the marble carving of my personhood with all of its subtle facets and contradictions and jagged edges and smooth curves. I love being me. I love forgetting and remembering the lessons around prioritizing my satisfaction and living for myself over others and giving the people in my life the gift of my truth and my...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
I was planning to write an analogous story about a kid who goes to summer camp but it doesn't feel right to drop breadcrumbs. Your attention is precious and I care too much about what I'm doing to be cute about it so I'm going to feed you the damn sandwich. My love of connecting with people is the seed that grew the roots of my coaching offering which sprouted Masculine Witness which has blossomed into what I am learning and practicing and offering now. I have attended two in-person trainings...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
I am an addict. At the festival a priestess asked us to write our sins on a slip of paper, fold it up and place it in a spherical glass bowl. I wrote: I habitually overeat and undersleep and overscroll. I don't want you to know these things about me for various egoic reasons, but allowing myself to be seen and known has been wonderful medicine for me lately, so now you know. An addiction means that someone knows that the thing is harmful, but they do the thing anyway. I know. I know as I do...
2 months ago • 1 min read
On a recent neighborhood walk I noticed and appreciated what I looked at as though it were an art gallery and that got me thinking about how I can appreciate the details in my awareness in all moments and that got me thinking about the importance of paying attention to what I pay attention to. I continue to pull on the red Kabbalah string and its lessons continue to be comforting and clarifying and inspiring. There is an emphasis on noticing the tendency to unconsciously react and instead...
3 months ago • 1 min read
I have been really enjoying loving presence lately. I believe it is an underutilized and underappreciated orientation towards any situation in life, but especially those where there is resistance or discomfort. But what is loving presence? It is simply to be both loving and present with whatever is in front of you. It is not partial presence, distracted by a screen or thoughts of the past or the future. It is not partial love, insisting that someone needs to be different than how they are. If...
3 months ago • 1 min read
A few simple things I've been doing have me feeling amazing this morning. I have been enjoying receiving lessons from Kabbalah. This morning I prayed outside for five minutes. When I speak these prayers, I ask to change myself: "Creator, please help me..." I was up last night reading a book. I noticed that I was in the magical hours where 10pm becomes midnight in the blink of an eye. I put the book down and got in bed before 11pm. Using mouth tape and an eye mask also improves my sleep...
3 months ago • 1 min read
A group of us were chatting after the writing part of Writing Club, and we were really getting into it on different spiritual ideas. Someone asked, "What is the fundamental unit of spirituality?" He explained that with coding, printing a statement like "Hello world." is the fundamental unit of writing software: compiling code and displaying the results. A friend suggested that witness consciousness is the fundamental unit of spirituality. This is the state of noticing thoughts and emotions...
4 months ago • 1 min read