Finding the Questions
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My friend asked me: How did you find the questions you are most curious about, that you are asking constantly, that you are investigating with your life? How would you help someone else to find their own questions, their own curiosity? What does the activity of considering that bring up for you? And I answered: How I found the questions feels like a fish in water scenario. There's probably things from childhood that generated my fascination with other-connection, self-connection, creativity, women, embodiment, emotions, games... I have no answer beyond "God called for a soul to have this particular collection of curiosities at this time and he just so happens to be me." I would encourage someone who wants to find their own questions to: 1) Notice what occupies your attention in your life right now. 2) Do not discount what you notice: "XYZ isn't a real curiosity." Why not? If you reject what you notice then investigate your rejection. 3) Consider what would be the next and smallest step on the path to following the curiosity, and then do it: read one article, send one email, ask one question. Writing out the above has me challenging my own story about how this isn't useful information: "Doesn't everyone already know this? Doesn't everyone already do this or purposely choose not to?" Maybe they don't. I also notice areas where I do not do step 3. A good reflection exercise :^) What are you most curious about right now? |
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