Relaxing Into Intention
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I live for the moments when I realize that what I thought was true was in fact a story in my head. This had previously happened for me with love. I'd put love on a pedestal, saw it as this Big Serious Thing, Very Serious. And so I'd gatekept it from myself. I'd thought that if I didn't feel a Big Serious Feeling, then it wasn't love. But then I relaxed about it and understood that love is simply a state of being. It's in my thoughts and my words and my actions, big and small. Love is a part of our nature, no effort needs to be made. Love will be expressed. I've had a similar realization recently around intention. I'd thought that I needed to have a Big Legible Intention for my life, an elevator pitch, a thesis statement. Something explicit that I could tell people so that they could decide to opt in or opt out. But I've relaxed about intention, and I've found clarity. I don't have to have a sexy thesis statement about my intentions when I express them so clearly through my actions. I looked at what I do, and I assessed: Clearly I care about the flourishing of art and creativity. Clearly I care about understanding people. Clearly I care about articulating frameworks for living well. I did an exercise to understand my authentic code, a distillation of my core values and soul essence. A compass to show me what is and is not in alignment with my authentic self. The words I landed on were creativity, connection, freedom, and play. And so while I don't have an explicit statement of intention, I know that I've remained true to myself through my actions that honor those core values. I am an intentional person. I live intentionally. I trust that I will continue to do the actions that are aligned with my authentic code. I'm thinking from the end: I have the job. What did I do to get there? How did I stay true to myself along the way? As I keep moving forward, embracing uncertainty and loving the process, one thing remains clear: Keep creating. Keep giving. Things I made:
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