Living On Purpose
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Quick Announcement: I am sharing an offering called Internal Polarity Dialogue! This offer is for women who have a people-pleasing or self-sacrificing pattern. Through conversations with your inner masculine and feminine parts, you can move from feeling frustration or sadness around this pattern to feeling more resourced and empowered to honor and prioritize your wants and needs. Learn more by watching this video and apply for a session by filling out this form. I have been giving more of my attention to myself and noticing where I am congruent and where I am incongruent. When I can be present with my incongruencies and accept that they are a part of my life right now, then I can start to move towards other possibilities. I told my friend Tasshin on a walk last month that I believe that every choice I make in life matters: every action, every word, every thought. I am not perfect with that but I have been better able to address some of the low-hanging fruit. I am past the nadir of my addiction to overeating and I believe the confession to you was helpful. Tell the truth and love myself. Writing it out helped me be present with it much more than I had previously, and now I am enjoying a healthier eating rhythm that includes a snack of four mandarin oranges, or fouranges. If I can stomach the possibility of people being displeased with me then I can stomach anything. It felt fraught at first to state a niche, to say that I have the requisite skills and experience to help you over here, but not you over there. I am not for everyone, it would be exhausting and overwhelming if I were. I walk instead of run as a compromise with the heat of Austin. I write my projects on my whiteboard and I cross them off. I share my pitch with my friends and they affirm what is good and they generously reveal my blindspots around the language I use, the visual aesthetic, the order of the information. Step by step by step by step I honor the call to service as best as I know how, trusting that it is all on purpose because I am living on purpose. I am relaxed because regardless of how things unfold, I am communicating what matters to me. I move with courage and intention. |
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My friend asked me: How did you find the questions you are most curious about, that you are asking constantly, that you are investigating with your life? How would you help someone else to find their own questions, their own curiosity? What does the activity of considering that bring up for you? And I answered: How I found the questions feels like a fish in water scenario. There's probably things from childhood that generated my fascination with other-connection, self-connection, creativity,...
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Today I'm thinking about the lifelong conversation I have with myself. Every decision I make, everything I say and do, every yes and no, every interaction I have is another etch in the marble carving of my personhood with all of its subtle facets and contradictions and jagged edges and smooth curves. I love being me. I love forgetting and remembering the lessons around prioritizing my satisfaction and living for myself over others and giving the people in my life the gift of my truth and my...