Living On Purpose
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Quick Announcement: I am sharing an offering called Internal Polarity Dialogue! This offer is for women who have a people-pleasing or self-sacrificing pattern. Through conversations with your inner masculine and feminine parts, you can move from feeling frustration or sadness around this pattern to feeling more resourced and empowered to honor and prioritize your wants and needs. Learn more by watching this video and apply for a session by filling out this form. I have been giving more of my attention to myself and noticing where I am congruent and where I am incongruent. When I can be present with my incongruencies and accept that they are a part of my life right now, then I can start to move towards other possibilities. I told my friend Tasshin on a walk last month that I believe that every choice I make in life matters: every action, every word, every thought. I am not perfect with that but I have been better able to address some of the low-hanging fruit. I am past the nadir of my addiction to overeating and I believe the confession to you was helpful. Tell the truth and love myself. Writing it out helped me be present with it much more than I had previously, and now I am enjoying a healthier eating rhythm that includes a snack of four mandarin oranges, or fouranges. If I can stomach the possibility of people being displeased with me then I can stomach anything. It felt fraught at first to state a niche, to say that I have the requisite skills and experience to help you over here, but not you over there. I am not for everyone, it would be exhausting and overwhelming if I were. I walk instead of run as a compromise with the heat of Austin. I write my projects on my whiteboard and I cross them off. I share my pitch with my friends and they affirm what is good and they generously reveal my blindspots around the language I use, the visual aesthetic, the order of the information. Step by step by step by step I honor the call to service as best as I know how, trusting that it is all on purpose because I am living on purpose. I am relaxed because regardless of how things unfold, I am communicating what matters to me. I move with courage and intention. |
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In any situation you can take a moment to notice whether you could enjoy it more - maybe a lot more or maybe a little more - and then take action to raise your enjoyment. Turning the act of noticing into a habit yields huge gains for lifetime enjoyment. This has been the message for me lately and so it is my solemn duty to pass the message on to you. Some examples: During a conversation someone asked me out of 10 how comfortable I was in my seat and I said 7. Once I was aware of this it was...
"Get back here!" I find myself shouting at my focus at times, but that's just a story. The internal tug-of-war isn't real. I could stop giving my attention to the distraction at any time, but I instead let the avoidance process run its course, and then I am resourced to do the task. Let me just run eight miles first, thinking intermittently about the message I want to send, and then I will feel resourced to send it and possibly receive a response that is not to my liking. I am practicing...
Asking is a skill which also makes it a game. It's a cooperative game between the asker and the askee and I'm going to describe a few examples I was in close proximity to recently in order to see what this game involves: The group asked for the delicious off-menu dessert and they got it. They had an advantage in that there was only upside. Since they weren't attached to getting the dessert, their circumstances would either stay as they were or they would get better. So an acceptance of any...